Dear Sweetheart Who’s Faking It,
First, let me say this with love and a little sparkle:
your pleasure matters, and you are not selfish for wanting it.
A relationship where only one person crosses the finish line isn’t a partnership — it’s a race with the wrong winner. And if your boyfriend is truly sweet and caring, he would want to know that he’s leaving you behind.
Here’s the secret:
Most men don’t shut down when told the truth —
they shut down when they feel blindsided or judged.
So talk to him with warmth, not disappointment:
“I love being close to you, and it feels amazing when you slow down with me. Can we try focusing on what gets me going too?”
Praise the things he does right.
Guide his hands.
Show, don’t shame.
Men respond beautifully to:
✨ Warm direction
✨ Positive reinforcement
✨ Knowing you still desire them
You’re not breaking his heart by asking for more — you’re inviting him into your world.
And sweetheart…
when you start being honest about what pleases you,
you may be very pleasantly surprised by how eager he becomes to learn.
xo, Jessi ♡
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