My spouse doesn’t believe in foreplay

Dear Deserving-of-Teasing-and-Touching,

Foreplay is not “extra.”
Foreplay is the part where women actually warm up, open up, and light up.

Wanting to be kissed, touched, held, explored, savored —
that’s not a luxury, honey.
That’s biology.
And also? It’s fun.

A partner who skips foreplay usually falls into one of three groups:

1. They don’t know what you need
2. They assume what works for them works for you
3. They’re uncomfortable with slowing down and being sensual

None of these make them a bad spouse — but they do make communication essential.

Try this:

“I feel closest to you when we warm each other up first. It makes our connection feel deeper and more exciting. Can we explore that together?”

Use words like “connection,” “us,” “together,” “intimacy.”
People hear those better than nitpicky corrections.

If they still dismiss your needs?

Then this becomes a bigger conversation:
Do they care about your pleasure, or just their routine?

You deserve a partner who touches your soul and your skin.

And trust me — once they see how foreplay changes your entire experience,
they’ll wonder why they ever skipped the best part.

xo, Jessi ♡