Hi sweetheart — come sit with me for a minute. Breathe. You’re not broken, confused, or late to anything. What you’re feeling is something almost every queer person has whispered to themselves at some point:

“Is this real… or am I imagining it?”

Here’s the truth: attraction doesn’t always crash into your life like fireworks. Sometimes it starts as a spark, a curiosity, a warm hum in your chest or your body. That hum isn’t confusion. It’s information. It’s your heart saying:

“Hey… this feels good. Pay attention.”

You don’t need a perfectly polished label. You don’t need to have this all figured out today, tomorrow, or even next year. Labels are tools, not deadlines. And you definitely don’t need to prove your queerness by rushing into anything before you’re ready.

Curiosity is valid all on its own.

I want you to pay gentle attention to the way this person makes you feel — the spark, the interest, the ease. That’s real. Attraction doesn’t stop being real just because it’s new or unexpected. Coming into your queerness is often less like a lightning bolt and more like a slow, soft sunrise.

You’re not having an identity crisis.
You’re having an identity conversation.
And conversations take time.

So instead of asking yourself, “Am I queer or am I confused?” try asking:

“What would it feel like to let this part of me exist without judging it?”

If that thought brings you relief, excitement, or a little flutter in your stomach — that’s your answer. Maybe you’re bisexual. Maybe you’re fluid. Maybe you’re queer. Maybe you’re something beautiful that doesn’t need a name yet.

Whatever you are, baby… it’s allowed.

Take your time. Treat yourself gently. Explore at your own pace. Follow the spark. Queerness isn’t a test — it’s a home you get to enter one soft step at a time.

xo, Jessi ♡